When we started the process, we really didn’t have any idea whether we wanted one or two kids and what age we’d like. A couple of things shaped our thinking on it and they are things that we’ve seen proven true over the last decade…….
If there’s a big age difference between your “current” kids and your new ones, you’re probably going to want more than one. In other words, having kids that are 14, 12, 9 and 2 would probably make you want more than one adopted kid – so maybe they are 14, 12, 9, 3 and 2.
If the kids you have in your family and the kids that you are going to adopt aren’t going to look like each other (and trust me, mine don’t), many people find that it’s good for the adopted child to not be the “only” one that doesn’t look like the others.
So we decided, thinking that we were rather experienced parents (so we thought) that we’d go ahead and adopt both of our kids at the same time. While I’m glad that we did, let’s just say the first 1 1/2 to 2 years were a blur. Similar to jumping on a fast moving treadmill and rather than floor behind it if you can’t keep up, a fast moving river is behind you so if you don’t keep up, you get washed away……
It’s a decision that everyone needs to make on their own, given their own beliefs, their own experiences and their own family make up. For us, I believe that adopting two at once was what God was calling us to do. Our children were there and He wanted us to go get them then.