It seems to me that there are four kinds of people…..
- Don’t Know and Don’t Care – “I don’t know what is going on in your life, I don’t really care what’s going on in your life, I want to limit our relationship to the weather, sports and what is needed for me to achieve my goals.”
- Know but Don’t Care – “I heard about your ___________ (fill in the blank with any of a multitude of different struggles) and that’s too bad. But I’m busy and I’ve got a lot going on, so good luck with that.”
- Don’t Know but Care – “I have never dealt with ________ so I don’t know and can’t really understand what you’re dealing with, but you are important to me and I’m sorry that you’re dealing with that. Knowing that I don’t know, I need you to tell me what I can do to help or if you just need a cup of coffee and a chance to talk.”
- I Know and I Care – “I’m sorry to hear about ________. we’ve experienced something similar when __________. When we were dealing with _________, here’s what helped us. Tell me what I can do to help you.”
Four different types of people.
Four different reactions to the struggles that we face in every day life.
I can name people that I’ve interacted with in all four types.
I’m sure we all can.
I’m sure there are different people who would put us in each of those different types at different times in life.
Life is hard. Life is messy. There are times when we are barely able to stay above the water and we just don’t have time for anyone else.
It isn’t possible to care deeply about every single crisis in the world, your head would explode. So you need to listen to God’s calling.
Read God’s Word.
And then care about those He has called you to care about.
Whether you understand them or not.
It’s what Jesus would do.
Proverbs 6:16-19 (The Message)
Seven Things God Hates
Here are six things God hates,
and one more that he loathes with a passion:
eyes that are arrogant,
a tongue that lies,
hands that murder the innocent,
a heart that hatches evil plots,
feet that race down a wicked track,
a mouth that lies under oath,
a troublemaker in the family.
It’s been bothering me a lot lately.
So many people seem obsessed with it.
It affects their relationships.
It affects their health.
It affects their belief in God (or their non-belief).
What is it?
It’s the constant obsession with “where are you?”
Are you on the right career track?
Are you attending the “right” church?
Are you part of the “in crowd”?
Are your kids at the “right” school?
There’s only one thing that matters.
Are you where God wants you to be?
That’s all that matters. It doesn’t matter what other people think. It doesn’t matter what other people say.
It only matters – are you where God wants you to be?
Are you doing what God wants you to?
Are you making a difference in the way God wants you to?
Are you being faithful to Him?
If so, then you are where you’re supposed to be.
And doing what you’re supposed to be doing.
But keep in mind that doing what God wants you to often involves being uncomfortable. It can involve walking in the dark – not knowing what the future holds – but knowing who holds the future.
And that’s hard.
But when you can only see 6 inches ahead of you, that’s when you really trust in God.
And that’s a blessing – a blessing that hurts sometimes. But a blessing that makes you stronger.
So don’t worry about where other people are at. Don’t worry about what they think. Don’t worry if their kids go to a different school than yours.
Be where God wants you to be.
That’s where it’s at.
Proverbs 6:12-15 (The Message)
Always Cooking Up Something Nasty
Riffraff and rascals
talk out of both sides of their mouths.
They wink at each other, they shuffle their feet,
they cross their fingers behind their backs.
Their perverse minds are always cooking up something nasty,
always stirring up trouble.
Catastrophe is just around the corner for them,
a total smash-up, their lives ruined beyond repair.
Proverbs 6:10-11 (The Message)
A nap here, a nap there, a day off here, a day off there,
sit back, take it easy—do you know what comes next?
Just this: You can look forward to a dirt-poor life,
poverty your permanent houseguest!