So, we have looked at a couple of things lately:

– We’ve talked about how it is okay to not be okay.   It’s okay to not have the perfect life, no one does.

It’s okay to not be okay and admit it.    It’s okay to struggle and to be open with those who are close to you – family, friends, church and such.  By admitting that you are not okay, you are giving your family, your friends and your church the opportunity to step up and be the hands and feet of Jesus.

Now I want to talk about another aspect of that.  What happens if you don’t know what to do about whatever you are not okay with?

If you hate going to work in the morning – but don’t know what to do about it……

If you don’t have a work to go to in the morning – and can’t seem to find one……

If your kids are struggling at school…..

If your health is failing……

If (insert a thousand other possibilities here)

and you don’t know what to do.   

Then what?

I don’t know.  I’ve been in that place many times, in some ways, I’m in that place right now.

But here’s some lessons that I have learned while in that place of not knowing…..

Lean on those you can trust.  Family, close friends, walk through your struggles with someone.   It is a lot less lonely when you can do that.  Sometimes it takes finding people online who understand when no one locally might understand.  

Care for the ones you love.  While you don’t know what to do about your problem, don’t forget the ones you love.   Care for them, care about them, be present with them. 

Don’t be afraid to sit with the uncertainty and the pain that comes from being “not okay.”  Don’t bury the pain and frustration because then it comes back out in more difficult ways.   Give yourself the okay to be not okay with being not okay.

6 inches – Only look 6 inches ahead.  Don’t worry about what’s going to happen in 3 years.   Focus on the here and now.   Trust God to provide you with what you need to know and the strength you need to walk through whatever you are walking through – not right now, but when you need it.

Take heart in the fact that while you might not know what to do about “it,” you do know the One who does know what the future holds.   And not only does he know what the future holds, He knows how to get you from here to “there.”   

Don’t forget to be the hands and feet of Jesus.  Yes, even while you are in the “not okay” phase and even while you are struggling to figure out what you need to do about what you are “not okay” about, don’t forget to look around and see who you can help.   Whether it’s someone else walking the same road or someone with a totally different need for help, keep your eyes open for opportunities to serve others.   It just might provide you with the “breath of fresh air” that you need to help you make it through another day of hard places.

It’s okay to not be okay.

It’s okay to not know what to do about it.

If this helps you, even in a small way, I’d love to hear from you.

Tom