Yes, it’s true, today I have the privilege of celebrating the momentous occasion of marking another trip around the sun.    When you’ve been around the sun a few times, it’s not nearly as momentous as it was when you were marking your 13th or your 21st or your 40th trip……

But I thought I’d take some time and share, one a day, 10 things that I’ve learned over the last 10 years.   I hope you’ll join me for the adventure – and it’s an adventure because as I write the first one, I don’t know what the list of 10 will be.   Smile

Oh and these are in random order – just because something is first or third or tenth has no impact on its significance.

So here we go.   What’s one thing I’ve learned in the last 10 years?

Relationships matter – almost always more than technicalities.   I’ve seen people who have ruined relationships with people who they were close to and many of those have been over things that don’t really matter.

Am I saying that the relationship should always take precedence over the behaviors and life choices that people make?    No, I believe that everyone has certain non-negotiables which, if that line is crossed, will result in the termination of a relationship.    But I believe that there are too many people suffering too much pain because relationships have ended – when they didn’t have to.

In a way, it’s called grace.   God gives us huge amounts of grace.   Way more than we deserve.   We don’t give nearly enough of it to our friends, our family, our church members, those who we meet who are struggling.

We all need to give each other more grace and more space to be human and to make mistakes and keep the relationships and the conversation open.   That’s what God does with us.   That’s what Jesus did when He had dinner with the prostitutes and the IRS agents.

There needs to be more grace and more mending of relationships.  Life is too short and God is too good to not extend grace and to mend relationships.

So, in random order, one of the things I’ve learned over the last 10 years is that relationships matter – often more than technical disagreements.

Until next time,

TJV