Time – What Time Is It?
I can’t speak for other countries, but Americans are obessed with time.
What time is it?
How long does it take to get there?
How long is it going to take?
Buy this latest calendar/planner – it’s guaranteed to change your life and make you a multi-millionaire!
Let me tell you two stories that changed my view of time. (Second one will come in Part 2).
In 2003, we were in the process of adopting and getting all of the paperwork pulled together. As part of that, we had to get certain documents “notarized” and then “authenticated” by the Haitian embassy. Given as how we weren’t too excited to send important documents by mail, we decided to schedule an appt and take the day off, drive to Chicago, get them authenticated and be back home by supper time.
The night before, I was reviewing the paperwork one last time and realized we had to get one document stamped with the seal of the State of Michigan before the Haitian embassy could authenticate it all. Suddenly our trip got longer – we had to go an hour east before we could go down to Chicago. But we figured out that if we were there, in Lansing Michigan, by the time the office opened, we could still make our appointment on time. If all went well.
If. Two small letters, one big word.
We left home early enough to make it to Lansing on time. In and out, like clock work. Headed straight to Chicago – well, as straight as we could. Traffic was good, all was on time. It was going to be close but all was looking good.
And suddenly, it all changed.
Red lights up ahead.
Almost there – we could see the building. And we’d make it on time!
If the red lights up ahead didn’t block the entire road. It was 4 lanes – give us one or two lanes open, please?
If only. If only the accident had happened a little way down the road. But it didn’t.
And we waited and waited.
And missed our appt. by 20 minutes. “I’m sorry, Mr. ________ left for lunch.” “Okay, can we come back after lunch? We’re sorry we missed our appt. It was because of a car accident.”
So we went and got lunch and came back about 1:30. “Have a seat, they should be back soon.”
And we waited.
And we waited.
And we waited.
Finally, four hours after they left for lunch, they returned. Very friendly, very welcoming, very quick to get things done and we were on our way.
It was our first introduction to Haitian time.
Time where relationships are more important than schedules.
A time that doesn’t worry about technicalities – like how long lunch is.
Over the years, we’ve heard other stories from friends about Haitian time. It was our first exposure to a different way of looking at time.
It also was our first exposure to really truly realizing that when we were entering into international adoption, we were entering into a different culture as well.
In many ways.
What time is it? Yeah, whatever……