Getting Smart

In the previous post, we talked about how it is important to push back against confusion and misunderstanding. We talked about how it’s important to push back against those because if we can clear up confusion and misunderstanding, it’s easier to push back against evil.

Why? Because evil likes to create confusion.

Evil likes to use misunderstanding to hide from the light of day.

Now I want to make it more personal. I don’t want to talk about government policies that are confusing. I don’t want to talk about how the motives behind what so and so does are being misunderstood.

I want to talk about you. I want to talk about me.

I can’t speak for you, maybe you do. I don’t.

Don’t what? I don’t know everything.

Not even close. Actually, so far from close that it’s funny to even think about.

But I know that if I get smarter, I can make more of a difference. If I ask questions, I can learn more. If I read about things, I can learn what is going on.

Most people are more afraid of what they don’t know about than what they do. If they don’t understand what is happening or why, that can create fear. It can create contempt.

I don’t understand your music – so it must be bad music.

I don’t understand your language – so you must be talking nasty about something or someone.

I don’t understand your religion so I don’t like you.

I don’t…….

The list can go on and on and on.

But if I do understand, then I can see you for you, not for what I didn’t understand.

If I do understand, then I can see the reason behind behaviors and not be afraid of the behaviors as evil or hostile.

If I understand your history, then I can appreciate your cultural festivals and respect them and you better.

If I understand the reason behind events in history, then I can see them for the impact they have on you and on me.

Most people are afraid of things that they don’t understand.

Many people will, when they understand things or people or traditions or habits or whatever, respond in a way that furthers communication and relationships.

And that makes the world a better place.

Tom

Tom

Trump and the Separation of Families

This first statement comes from an Immigrant Justice organization in Montana.  I’ve been told (by someone whose word I trust) that there are a number of reputable immigration attorneys in this organization.

Even if you apply the Vanderwell Rule of 50% and only take half of what they say as true, then the Order that President Trump signed today is not anywhere near close to an end to the problem.

This quote is from a friend of mine who has WAY more adopted kids than I do.   She is passionate about social justice and is very well read and well connected on these issues……

This last article comes from the Atlantic Magazine.   It references two very disturbing quotes that the President said.   In one of them, he refers to humans as animals.   In the other, he refers to the people on the southern border who are fleeing bad situations in their home country and says they are infesting our country.   People don’t infest, insects do.

I don’t have a video of it, but I heard that former President Obama, who pledged to stay quiet and not speak out about politics and government unless our core values are at stake, released a statement today.   I do not know what it said, but if he released a statement, that means he is concerned about the core values in America.

I’m concerned about them too.  I can’t make this stuff up.  

Stand up for what’s right – before it’s too late.

Tom

Can We Talk?

Welcome to what used to be “Thoughts from an Ordinary Guy” and is being reconstructed into “Can We Talk? – Not Easy Questions with No Easy Answers.”

Stay tuned, more changes will be happening soon.

Tom

There is a Better Way

I remember, back when I started working for the orphanage we adopted our children from, having a conversation with a friend about orphanages.   At that point, I contended that a “good” and “well run” orphanage was a good way to care for vulnerable children.

She, my friend, was adamant that there wasn’t such a thing.   That by virtue of the model of care, the way that children are impacted and the lives that are damaged, she said there wasn’t such a thing as a good orphanage or a well run orphanage.   We agreed, at that point, to disagree but respect each other and have remained friends.

A number of years later, I have to admit that I no longer disagree with her.   She was right.

Please take the time to watch Tara Winkler as she explains very eloquently her journey from a tourist to a voluntourist to an orphanage director to the director of an organization that has found a “better way.”

The Apparent Project, who I have the privilege of working with, has found a better way.