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What Matters to Me

I put that as part of the “tag line” of the blog….. My Life My Story What Matters to Me So, what matters to me? You’ll find out more as we go along, but I want to share a few things that will frame a lot of what I do on here. My faith – …

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Ted Cruz’s Protect Kids and Parents Act 

This is another example of how our government is failing us, all of us.  Even if only half of what this says is true, we have a Senator who was formerly a Presidential candidate proposing an act that appears to be good on face value, but when you look at the behind the scenes realities, …

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Trump and the Separation of Families

This first statement comes from an Immigrant Justice organization in Montana.  I’ve been told (by someone whose word I trust) that there are a number of reputable immigration attorneys in this organization. Even if you apply the Vanderwell Rule of 50% and only take half of what they say as true, then the Order that …

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200 Colored Buttons and 4 Cans of Diet Coke

So, I live on the west side of Michigan – about 30 minutes from Lake Michigan. There’s a school on the other side of the state where an adoptive mom teaches – she has two children from Haiti and I consider her a friend. When I was working for the orphanage, she asked me if …

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Christian Reformed Church Statement on Forced Separation Policy

“We call on the U.S. administration to immediately end these unjust practices, and to reaffirm the U.S. commitment to the values of family unity, humane treatment, and refuge for persons being persecuted. We also call on Congress to immediately act to reform our immigration system so that there are more, not fewer, opportunities for legal …

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Comfort Zone? Uh, yeah, I didn’t pack that…..

In June of 2003, my wife and I got on a plane in Miami bound for Port Au Prince, Haiti. We forgot to pack our comfort zone. Left that back in Michigan. Our intention at that point was to spend a week volunteering at an orphanage and eventually adopt from them. I had never been …

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I Wish…..

That Today was just a “normal” Sunday. I wish that we didn’t “have” to have a day to say thank you to the Dads who show up every day. I wish that showing up was considered the norm and not an exception. I wish that today wasn’t so hard for those whose Dads didn’t show …

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The Devil Isn’t Happy Tonight……

See, there’s this “kid” (yeah, I’m old enough to call someone in their 20’s a kid). He’s a preacher’s kid and a preacher’s grandkid. He’s grown up “in the church” but his preacher dad wasn’t a stereotypical preacher. He planted a church – out west in this state called California. This kid grew up with …

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From Words to Numbers? For 20 Years? Really?

As I write that title, I can’t help but smile and think that some of my classmates in my English classes at Calvin might think that spending 20 years dealing with numbers would be something along the lines of “cruel and unusual punishment.” How in the world did I end up getting there? Well, that’s …

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Martin Luther King Jr. vs. Attorney General Jeff Sessions and Press Secretary Sarah Huckabee Sanders

“Of course, there is nothing new about this kind of civil disobedience. It was evidenced sublimely in the refusal of Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego to obey the laws of Nebuchadnezzar, on the ground that a higher moral law was at stake. It was practiced superbly by the early Christians, who were willing to face hungry …

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Let me make sure I understand this correctly……

The U.S. Government has decided that they want to use children as a “supposed” deterrent to people who are seeking asylum or looking to enter the U.S. without the proper documentation. They want to use children as a pawn in a chess match? Yes, that’s what Attorney General Jeff Sessions flat out said – if …

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Never Underestimate the Power of an Excellent Teacher

It started when I was in high school. I didn’t really know what I wanted to do other than go to college. I was still figuring that all out (in some ways I still am). And then I took this English class. The teacher was a guy by the name of Jerry Fondse. The class …

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Why I Write….

So, I started this blog a number of years ago. Sometimes, it’s been rather active, sometimes it’s been quiet. Lately, it’s been more quiet than active. I’ll explain more of why that has been as we move along this journey. Why did I start it? I started it because I like to write. I find …

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A moral crisis grips the US border. Yet the religious right is shamefully silent | Marilynne Robinson | Opinion | The Guardian

As a matter of recent policy, agents of the American government take children from their parents’ arms at our southern border. They are kept at separate facilities for indeterminate periods of time. The parents are jailed and the children are put in the care of non-governmental agencies, sometimes in other states. It is hard to …

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Everyone Has A Story | Brené Brown

Everyone has a story or a struggle that will break your heart. And, if we’re really paying attention, most people have a story that will bring us to our knees. You would think the universal nature of struggle would make it easier for all of us to ask for help, but in a culture of …

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He speaks truth…..

Ted Cruz’s Protect Kids and Parents Act  Trump and the Separation of Families 200 Colored Buttons and 4 Cans of Diet Coke Christian Reformed Church Statement on Forced Separation Policy Martin Luther King Jr. vs. Attorney General Jeff Sessions and Press Secretary Sarah Huckabee Sanders Next Page »

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The US is violating the Human Rights of Children – and the UN is calling us out on it.

That is a title to a post that I never thought I would have to write. It’s something I never wanted to write – because I didn’t want it be true. But here’s the reality: Previously, the US Customs and Border patrols would, I’ve been told, keep children with their parents when they arrive at …

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Deportation Story Personalized

When seeing this video, my son said, “oh man, even Victor is affected by this? That’s bad.” Yes it is. What Matters to Me Ted Cruz’s Protect Kids and Parents Act  Trump and the Separation of Families 200 Colored Buttons and 4 Cans of Diet Coke Christian Reformed Church Statement on Forced Separation Policy Next …

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Columbine and a Moral Compass?

I know I’m aging myself when I say this, but how many of you can remember where you were when you heard the news about the shooting at Columbine’s high school?   I can.  I can tell you which gas station I was pulling into when it came on the radio. While it wasn’t the first …

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In Christ, Your Past does not direct Your Future

There’s this lady I know…… I’ve known her for maybe 5 years. The title of this post is a paraphrase of her personal mission statement (only because I can’t remember the exact words of how she says it.) But the point is clear…… In Christ – nothing is possible without Christ. He’s the reason for …

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