How Do You Go On?
Two days after the earthquake, the entire board of the orphanage got together by phone to discuss the question that no one likes to ask……
How do you go on? How do you go on when you’ve never been this way before?
How do you go on when you don’t even know what questions to ask?
How do you go on when you don’t know what you can rely on?
How do go on when everyone is struggling with grief and loss. I can’t verify that it’s true but I’ve been told that everyone in the Port Au Prince area either loss a family member or friend or they are close friends with someone who lost a family member or close friend.
How do you go on? I don’t know how we did. Those of us in Canada and the US who were on the board had the easy part. We had more busy, more planning, more worry, more phone calls, more anxious parents. We didn’t have to worry about running out of water, about whether the roof is going to cave in, about whether our co-worker who isn’t scheduled to work for 2 more days yet will show up or not. We knew our government was still there, that there were rescue teams attempting to rescue and recover the missing. Our people in Haiti didn’t know that.
But the urgency of the situation in Haiti translated to urgency here in the first world. We decided to send an emergency medical team and to set a goal that the whole team be in Miami on Monday (6 days after) and we would work to get them on a charter plane on Tuesday or Wednesday. My wife was on that team. So for 2 1/2 days, we had people dropping off medical donations at our house and we tried to pack in as much as we could. We didn’t really know what we would need, but we knew that there would probably be someone who could use them.
Examples of the “urgency” that we all felt in that first bit…..
– Getting an instant message from my boss asking me if I was working right then – at 3:35 in the morning.
– Waking up an adoptive parent at 1:30 in the morning telling him he needed to be on a plane by 10:00 the next morning.
– Having a fundraising conference call at 11:00 PM Pacific Time (2:00 AM Eastern Time)
– Getting 3 hours of sleep the night before my wife left for Haiti and having that be 50% more than my shortest night for the week.
– Getting e-mails from very nervous adoptive parents that they couldn’t get through on my phone and my voice mail was full. E-mailing them back telling them I was attempting to do that but the e-mails were coming in faster than I could answer them and then the voice mails too……
I want to make something very clear. While I was the only one “officially” involved located in Michigan, I was in no manner unique. Everyone on staff and all of the friends that I know who were working with organizations in Haiti said that it was encouraging how many people wanted to help.
A friend of mine runs an organization that advocates on behalf of orphans with HIV/AIDS. They have a slogan which became very apropos during the first part of the, well, I’m going to use the word recovery, but the case could be made that it hasn’t gotten there yet.
That slogan? “It’s Not About Me.” I keep telling her that I think the back of their t-shirts should say, “It’s Not About You Either.”
How do you go on in light of the worst natural disaster in the Western Hemisphere?
How do you not go on?
You go on because you have to. You go on because that’s what God wants. You go on because you can.
Unfortunately, not everyone who could and said they would help did. But we’ll get into that later.