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Sit with the Pain

This is a tough week.   There are people who are happy.   There are people who are sad.   There are people who are angry and vengeful.  There are people who are scared, scared personally and scared for the nation.

There are people who are absolutely terrified about what this might mean for their children as they grow up.

It has changed social media from social to sociopathic.  

This is not the time and this is not the place for trite answers.   This is not the time for rainbows and unicorns.   This is definitely not the time for death threats and sexual assaults (not that there ever is, but there are reports of both coming in since Tuesday night).

A friend of mine (and I’m not going to use his name because I’m quoting him without permission) wrote on Facebook yesterday…..

“Last week, one of my kids asked, “What are you going to do if Trump wins?” After a moment’s pause, I said, “I’m going to keep trying to make this place look more like the kingdom of God. It’s just going to be a lot harder in some ways.”

I’m back this morning. It’s good, but it’s a lot harder in some ways.”

Recognize that it’s going to be a lot harder.   It already is a lot harder. 

Don’t try to minimize pains or fears.

Sit with their pain.   Sit with them in their sadness or their fear.   Let them know that you are still here.   That you don’t know what to say but you’re still here.

And you’re going to be here, fighting for what’s right, being a voice for the voiceless and sitting with the hurting in their pain. 

Because it’s going to be a lot harder in some ways.   And it’s up to us to stand up for what we believe is right.

And to sit with those who are in pain and let them know they aren’t alone.

We need to show those who are afraid and the rest of the world that one man and the anger he has unleashed do not define this country and do not define our church.

If they do, then may God help us all.

Tom

Don’t Yell At Your Neighbor

It’s times like these that make social media really uncomfortable.

There’s no escaping it.   Whether it’s what someone said years ago or what happened somewhere last week, there’s no escaping it.

Whether it’s the weather in St. Augustine or the storm surge in Jeremie, there’s no escaping it.

Whether you think someone is “the right man for the job” or the “wrong man for anything,” there’s no escaping it.

Whether it’s bombings in Aleppo or wind gusts in Les Cayes, or blowhards in Washington, there’s no escaping it.

Whether it’s shootings in Baton Rouge or random acts of kindness by police officers in New York, there is no escaping it.

This all reminds me of two famous quotes:

Margaret Meade – “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed, citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.”

Bob Goff, author of Love Does and skateboarding attorney, said,  “Most people need love and acceptance a lot more than they need advice.

As you read the news, scan your Facebook feed, look at what’s happening on Twitter, remember that – a small group of people can change the world.

And most of those voices that are screaming for attention on the social media front don’t need advice, they just need love and acceptance.

I might disagree with you – but love me anyway.

I might get mad about this – but love me anyway.

Don’t unfriend me just because I don’t like your opinion – because I still like you.

The world is very small but very big.   That means your neighbor isn’t only the guy across the fence – your neighbor is also the black man who is marching in a protest, the Haitian mother who is watching her children die of cholera because they can’t get clean water.   The list could go on and on.

There is way too much giving of advice, way too much yelling advice.   God calls us to do differently…….

Because Love Does,

TJV